Dear Annie: A year ago my best friend âTiaâ got her real estate license and she worked really hard to build her clientele. She was successful in selling two houses and being the buyer’s agent for three.
My husband and I want to buy a house soon, and I don’t know if I should hire him as an agent. She’s a wonderful friend, and we’ve been through thick and thin together.
On the one hand, I want to do all I can to support my friend in her new career. I think she has great qualities and would do a good job for us. I’m also worried that she will be hurt if we don’t choose her.
On the other hand, my husband is nervous about his inexperience and I’m worried that if we didn’t agree in this transaction it would negatively affect our friendship.
What do you think i should do – Mix friends with business
Dear Friends and Business: Since Tia is a wonderful friend and you have been through difficult times together, take her to lunch and explain the whole situation to her. Explain that your friendship is more important to you than a single home purchase. Talk to her about your husband’s concerns.
Then you can come up with one of two options: you and your husband can hire someone else, or she can team up with an experienced real estate agent and you and your husband can work with two agents to buy your house. . Having someone you can trust who represents you is helpful, and having someone with extensive experience is worth gold. Good luck with your new home – and with your lasting friendship.
Dear Annie: I have to say it, even though I’m overreacting and it’s not my place. Recently friends got divorced and some of my family took different positions. Specifically, I became the ear of the woman to let off steam when the going got tough, while my sister-in-law, “Rebecca”, became the ear of the husband, “Sam”, to let off steam.
I tried to stay out of the details and just offer encouragement during the tough times in my friend’s life. However, details of Sam’s date with other girls have been revealed.
Rebecca doesn’t think Sam did anything wrong because he said when he met these girls nothing physical ever happened. Rebecca and Sam constantly hang out together and she’s killed any friendship she had with his wife.
The divorce has been finalized, and there is still tension between all parties involved. Recently, I’ve noticed that Rebecca has taken a much more active role in her friendship with Sam. I wouldn’t mind Rebecca and Sam getting together without the fact that she’s married and has four children. She constantly texted him while ignoring her own family, despite being told repeatedly that her close relationship with Sam raised questions about whether she was cheating on her husband.
Rebecca complained that her husband was working long hours, but by the time he got a day off she left him at home with their kids so she could go on a date local with Sam. Luckily there was another guy there. My worry is that she is going to be in the same place our friends were recently because her husband will think it was too much. Her husband doesn’t like Sam either. If an argument or divorce is on the horizon, she will always be part of our family because she is my husband’s sister.
Is there anything I can do or say to alert her to the dangers she may be facing, or am I sticking my nose somewhere it shouldn’t belong? – Sister worried and worried
Dear Worried and Worried Sister: Rebecca is playing with fire, flirting with Sam and ignoring her husband. Since Rebecca is your husband’s sister, you could ask him to speak to her for the sake of the four children, at least.
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